1 Peter 3:1-7

¹ “Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, ² when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. ³ Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. ⁴ Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. ⁵ For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, ⁶ like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.⁷ Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”

Verse 1: Peter encourages wives to submit to their husbands. However, it’s important to understand that this submission is not about hierarchy or control. Submission is a voluntary act of love and respect, not a forced obligation. It is a reflection of the selfless love that Christ has shown us. Wives can demonstrate their faith through their behavior, trusting that God can work in their husbands’ hearts.

Verse 2: The purity and reverence mentioned here are not about following a set of rules or regulations. Instead, it refers to the transformed lives of believers who have received the righteousness of Christ. Our lives can reflect the grace and love of God, which can have a powerful impact on those around us.

Verse 3: Peter reminds us that our true beauty comes from within, not from external appearances. Our worth and value are not determined by our outward appearance or material possessions. Instead, our beauty is found in the character of Christ that is being formed in us.

Verse 4: The inner self, our true identity in Christ, is what truly matters. Our value and worth are not based on our performance or achievements, but on the fact that we are children of God. A gentle and quiet spirit refers to a heart that is at peace, trusting in God’s love and provision. This inner beauty is highly valued by God.

Verse 5: Peter points to the example of holy women in the past who trusted in God and demonstrated submission to their husbands. However, it’s important to remember that their submission was not about earning God’s favor or proving their worth. It was a response to their faith and trust in God’s plan.

Verse 6: Peter mentions Sarah as an example of a woman who respected and obeyed her husband, Abraham. However, it’s important to note that this reference is not meant to establish a rigid hierarchy or to diminish the value and equality of women. Instead, it highlights the importance of trust, respect, and faithfulness within the marriage relationship. As believers, we are called to do what is right and not let fear dictate our actions.

Verse 7: Peter now addresses husbands, urging them to be considerate and respectful towards their wives. The reference to the wife as the “weaker partner” does not imply inferiority, but rather highlights the need for husbands to protect and care for their wives. Husbands are called to recognize the equal value and worth of their wives as fellow heirs of God’s grace. By treating their wives with love and respect, husbands can maintain a healthy and harmonious relationship with both their spouse and with God.